After a month of vomiting and passing out in the middle of the day for 2 hour "naps" I have to admit I'm pregnant. This is my second child. My first being the fabulous Ford who will be 4 in May.
I didn't think I would have any more children so I'm more than a little shaken up by the whole thing. Will there be complications? People are saying,"Whoa! You really got a late start!" Like my career and marriage didn't justify careful planning. Sheeh!
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HELLO! They just don't understand. People look at my husband & I like we're aliens because we've waited this long. Like, it’s not normal for a couple to enjoy their marriage (and get a jump start on their careers), first.
I really think if you can wait for 2 - 5 years after you get married before having kids then I really think you should. That time alone with your spouse just getting to truly, madly, deeply know each other is priceless. You get the first big fight out of the way, jealous insecurities wear off and you get you big "finances" argument out of the way. After a couple years you probably WANT the pitter-patter of little feet.
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I agree Rosie. Who wrote the book on when a coulple should have children? Too often, society dictates, what is acceptable and what isn't. Personally, I think it is just unnecessary pressure. I think if a couple wants to get to know each other and enjoy life, then by all means, they should. All the best to you! :-)
Forget society. My mother and father were relentless. My dad even tried the we are getting old gambit and questions as to my fertility. OMG! They drove me crazy. Now there is all these old wives tales about being over 30 and having children. I say it is better to CHOOSE when you can and enjoy the entire process. I was so ready to be pregnant I literally shone! My whole heart was in it. Now I am loving my new little peanut (not so little, Baby is 13.5 inches long already).
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LOL @ My mother and father were relentless. My parents-in-law have "adopted" a two year old little boy as their own (acutally the boy belongs my brother-in-law's girlfriend), so he's keeping them quiet for now.
I am new to this blog. I am so glad that I found it and that it exists. I am 30 going on 31. I feel the pressure to get pregnant, if I ever will in the next couple of years. It is rough. I never wanted children until a year and a half ago when I met this wonderful man who I am currently in a wonderful committed relationship with now. He makes me want babies.
And although I have been married before (5 years to a wonderful man) and had another five year relationship after that, here I stand, for the first time, actually considering motherhood. I feel beat for time. I want to let it all flow, but I know that there are tons of African American women around me who have lost their ability to reproduce by 30.
Let's celebrate for me (a survivor of cervical dysplasia at 24) that I just got my Pap results and I have been certified and good and clear yet another year. Yeah!!!
Congrats on the great results! I know it must be a great weight off your shoulders. Is your current boyfriend ready and willing to be a father? It does take two to make a baby and you would want a strong, loving father in your child's life.
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Too funny! You think they are so occupied with the new baby that they will stay off your back? lol. I hope the "He needs a playmate speech doesn't rear it's ugly head! After Ford, the when will you have a boy and why are you making her an only child conversation started.
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